Discovering Your True Self

As the entire world shuts down and millions of people are forced to shelter in place, we are extracted from our daily routines and habits. It is in these unexpected transitions that we may experience personal growth or change. When placed in a new environment, we may find another side of ourselves. In these times, without distraction from the outside world, what do you find yourself gravitating towards?

• Have you been consuming endless TV shows and movies?
• Have you spent more time on social media or less?
• Have you discovered a new hobby or reignited an old interest?
• Are you more creative than you gave yourself credit for? A better chef than you thought?
• Did you turn to others for help, or become more self-sufficient?
• Have you found more joy or boredom in the simplicity of life?

When the world went dark, who did you become?

As we inevitably spend more time with ourselves and our thoughts, we can take this opportunity to reflect internally. For some, this is second nature, as we are naturally introverted and spend a lot of time thinking. For others, it might require more effort to connect with ourselves rather than others. Regardless of your natural inclination, make this transition a time of renewal and transformation. Sit down and have a conversation with yourself. Let your subconscious thoughts surface and maybe even shock your conscious self.

For me, the shelter-in-place has been ironically liberating. I finally had time to start the projects I had long dreamed of (like this blog), without the distraction of a packed social calendar. I was faced with my goals and aspirations, with no excuses to defer. As an introvert, I may have had an easier time adjusting to this new normal. But we are not simply “extroverted” or “introverted” people. We all fall on a spectrum and I think everyone has the capability to tap into their introverted selves.

If you’re not sure where to start in conversing with yourself, here are a few questions I found myself asking. Let these be a starting guide, and explore any additional questions that come your way as you start reflecting.

• Think back to how you spent your days before shelter-in-place? What are your feelings about it? Do these old habits still serve you?
• How will you apply these learnings when the quarantine is over? What immediate changes can you make now?
• If there is one thing you will remember from this pandemic quarantine, what will it be?

When the world opens up again, don’t let hedonic adaptation sweep you away. Remember the simple joys you’re experiencing now.  Cherish those conversations with yourself and revisit them often. Hold on to this new person you have become because that is a step towards your true self.